Happy Monday Friends!
I had such a lazy weekend with my boyfriend and it was exactly what I needed. We finished watching 13 Reasons Why season 2, Queer Eye season 2 and the new Netflix Movie “Set It Up.” Plus it’s a four day work week for me since I’m taking a summer Friday this week for a little date day with Eddie.
Today’s outfit post is what I wore on the plane to Puerto Rico. I love this satin jacket because of the palm print. But, it was also perfect because it kept me warm at the airport, but didn’t make me too hot once we arrived at our tropical destination. I have this jacket in two more colors and have been rotating them for work. They’re perfect for making any outfit look a little more dressed up.
I read an article once that said millennials have a hard time taking their vacation days and overall leaving the office. It’s something I’ve definitely struggled with and after doing some research and reading more articles, it’s something a lot of my fellow millennials struggle with too. To sum it up, we feel vacation-shamed if we ask for days off. We feel like others see us as not working hard enough or valuing our job enough. But, what really stood out to me was that millennials shame other millennials for taking a vacation!
My first two years of working, I never took a vacation. I didn’t even think about it and the idea of asking for a day off or a week off terrified me. Plus, the idea of taking time off was not part of the work culture for many places I worked at. I heard the conversations people had about other people who took vacation and I remember even partaking in those talks as well.
It’s funny because these days, we constantly talk about how hard we work and the long hours we work and we almost brag about those things even though they aren’t things to brag about. We think that working like crazy makes us seem more important and more valued and that our job is more important than someone else’s because we can’t afford to take time off. That’s ridiculous. So today, I’m going to try to help you get over that vacation shame & talk about why it’s important taking a vacation.
YOU ARE ENTITLED TO A VACATION
Simple as that. Pencils down. Post over. Goodbye. We’re going home.
Office politics & needy bosses aside, you are literally given a certain amount of paid days by your company to take off. And you have every right to take those days off. You’re not doing anything wrong by exercising your right taking a vacation that was allotted to you.
And if we’re gonna get fancy here, you deserve a vacation. You’ve been adjusting from college life to adult life. Constantly working harder than anyone else to prove yourself. Getting up super early and dealing with crowded and delayed trains or traffic that won’t move. You’re also probably the first one in the office and the last one out. You deserve a break. You deserve to treat yourself.
So email your boss what days you’re planning on taking off, put it on the calendar, book the ticket and when you go, turn on that out of office message and enjoy yourself.
YOU HAVE TO LEARN TO SET STANDARDS FOR YOURSELF
I remember one time I was talking to my director and I was telling her that I want to grow in my career, but I’m also scared of giving up my freedom again. I want to be able to take vacation days and not feel anxious or guilty and I want to be able to leave at 5 or 6 everyday and for it to not be frowned upon. And she told me, no one is going to sit here and tell you to leave at 5 or take a vacation day, you have to set those standards for yourself. She also said, if you tell yourself, I’m going to work hard from this time to this time to make sure I can leave at 5 then that’s great, do it, but no one is gonna do it for you.
That honestly changed my outlook on the workplace so much and it’s something I live by when I’m at work. My team at work has such a great work/life balance and it’s so refreshing to see and was a shock to me when I first joined the team. To hear people say, this day sucks, I can’t get anything else done so I’m leaving is truly refreshing.
Our whole life, we have been on a schedule that someone else set for us. Go to school from this month to this month, you get spring break and winter break off, go back to school, you get summer vacation and do it all over again. It’s so hard when you have to be an adult and say, actually I want these days off. I never thought it would be such a struggle, but it honestly was and it’s something that takes a learning curve. To me, days off and vacation days are a time for you to relax physically and also mentally. So for your own mental health, set standards and boundaries for yourself and stick to them. Put yourself first and listen to your body.
IT WILL ACTUALLY MAKE YOU MORE PRODUCTIVE AT WORK
Taking a vacation is the the ultimate refresh button. Have you ever met anyone that returned from a vacation and is cranky or mean? Um, no! They’re refreshed and happy and have a fresh perspective on everything.
Feeling burned out is a real thing. It’s not something that people say just because they’re tired or lazy. It’s a real thing that can affect your work and your performance. If only there was something to help that feeling of being burned out. Oh wait! That’s why we have vacation days!!
I’m no expert or doctor, but what I will say is, there have been actual studies done to show that people who take vacations are actually more productive at work. Think about it, it makes sense.
Prior to a vacation, you’re excited and you have a big reason and goal to work hard. You work faster and smarter to make sure all of your work gets done and nothing seems to bring you down because you know you have fun plans coming up. And when you return, you’re relaxed and refreshed and any issues that seemed so big before, don’tt seem all that important now. Things that have been just sitting on your to do list or that caused you problems, you’re suddenly more motivated to get them done.
Taking a vacation is amazing for your mental health. And for me personally, I use it as one of my motivations. When I’m exhausted and don’t want to get up and go to work, I always think, I’m going to work hard and make money so that I can travel.
IT WILL MAKE YOU MORE VALUABLE & OTHERS MORE EMPATHETIC
The reality is, your job isn’t going to burn down if you’re gone. Even if you have an overly needy boss who tries to convince you otherwise, it’s going to be fine.
A lot of millennials don’t take vacation because they’re afraid to be out of the office and be seen as someone who doesn’t value their job like the next person. I actually think it has the opposite effect and I think taking a vacation shows how valuable you are as an employee.
Raise your hand, if there are certain things you do during the day to make everyone’s life easier that people don’t really know you do. Raise your hand, if you’ve ever done something and your boss has been like wow, I didn’t know you do that. I’m confident that my team values me, but I’m also confident that they don’t know every little thing I do to make sure this place runs smoothly.
While the place may not burn down during your absence, people will notice that their day or a certain project runs smoother when you’re here. Little problems that have never come up before because you prevent them, may come up in your absence. And honestly, that’s fine. Let it. People will come to notice that things run a little more smoother when you’re here. Being an adult is hard in that, you don’t always get a pat on the back or a gold star for every little thing you do. You may feel as if your hard work goes unnoticed. But, honestly it doesn’t. Even if people don’t say it, they see it.
And I think it’ll make people more empathetic to your day to day struggles. You can complain or talk about this and that, but if it doesn’t really affect your team, it’s not really a priority for anyone else. For me personally, I manage a prop closet at work. Basically a big, amazing room with hundreds of shoes, clothes, jewelry, bags, etc. Pretty much anything you would need to style a shoot, I have it. But, maintaining all of that is a struggle because I’m running out of space. I have all these clothes on a rolling rack because I can’t fit them into the built in racks. My shoes are overflowing. It’s something that I’ve always mentioned, but hasn’t really been a priority. When I was on vacation, my boss had to deal with the prop closet and when I came back, she told me she didn’t know how I dealt with this because I need more space. She definitely understood more some of the day to day challenges I face.
Taking time out of the office truly has it’s benefit and shows how valuable you are as an employee.
TO HELP YOU UNDERSTAND YOUR WORK CULTURE
When I worked at a magazine, I was being paid peanuts. But, I saved so much money during my time there because I worked so many overtime hours and never did anything else. There’s nothing worse than being so busy making a living that you forget to have a life. I didn’t go out to eat lunch or go out on the weekends or even shop because I never had time. My only expense was my monthly commute and the essential bills. My savings account was looking great, but I was tired and stressed and depressed. I would never even think of asking for a day off nonetheless a week off. Even if I did gather enough courage to ask for a day off, I knew I would just end up on my emails or texts with my boss all day. Shoot, I was on emails even when I stepped out to use the restroom. And I was on emails on Christmas Eve dealing with work. Have I painted a pretty picture for you yet?
The first company I worked for, no one really took a lunch break. They took smoke breaks all day long, but lunch was out of the question. There was one day during fashion week prep, where I stepped out at 4pm to run next door to get something to eat and when I opened the door and walked back into the office, my boss was sitting at her computer, just screaming my name. Again and again until I finally ran over to her. I was gone for maybe 5 minutes and she freaked.
If you work for a company that doesn’t have a work/life balance and frowns upon employees taking a vacation and just being out of the office and instead working you into the ground, is that really a company you want to work for? Even if you’re working hard for a promotion, what does that promotion look like? More work, more hours and no time off. No, thank you.
When we think about work and a job, we always prioritize how much money are we making or if it’s a notable brand and honestly we need to focus more on what the work environment is like. Who cares if you’re making all this money if you work for a beast and can never take time off? Is that really worth it? For me, it’s not. So take your vacation days and if the response to you exercising your right to take a day off is frowned upon, maybe take a good look at the company you’re working for and what you want your future down the road to be.
Taking a Vacation Outfit Details
Can you tell I’m still in a vacation state of mind? It’s all I wanna talk about!
Thank you so much for reading and stopping by. Have a great week ahead!